Ok, so, two things before we get started.
1. A big, beaming,
Goldiluxe “Congratulations” to all the
New Year’s Day engagements!
2. I got so many e-mails on this topic; I thought I would
answer you all at once.
So, here goes!
Hey Goldiluxe!
I’m engaged! It happened on New Year’s Eve, it wasn’t
cheesy and I am so super happy I can’t stand it. So…what do we do now? Is there something I should be doing?-I feel
like there’s something I should be doing.
I could just pee-Help us!
No need to pee. I
promise. It does terrible things to
rugs.
First of all, calm it on down, sugar! You got engaged, what, like ten minutes
ago? You should be enjoying this,
basking in the delicious glow that is being engaged. Now, don’t get me wrong, I
am not a fan of “should’s” and “must’s” when it comes to weddings, but I think
there are a few things worth doing in the very early stages of wedding
planning.
1. Celebrate, celebrate, celebrate! Throw a party, take a
vacation, or shout it from the mountaintops, if you want. Just get out there with your sweetie and make
a joyous ruckus! My favorite part about
being engaged (besides the obvi) was getting to prance about; all dewy and
doe-eyed; talking about my man and our super awesome lurve. Having that extra special, one on one time
made the daunting task of planning our wedding much less overwhelming.
2. Set a date. If you ask 100 couples when it’s best to get
married, I guarantee you’ll get 100 different answers. So, I’m not going to try to sway you one way
or the other (for now, winky face). I
will say that the two of you should talk it through a little bit, see what
works best for you. I wouldn’t worry too
terribly much about everyone else, because no matter what you do, people will
have opinions (ask me about having a Friday wedding!).
3. Set a budget.
Seriously. Before you look at flowers
or venues or any of the 150 billion other things, set that budget. Money talk can be uncomfortable and it can be
tedious, but it is a hell of a lot less uncomfortable and tedious than what
will happen if you run around like a drunken sailor on shore leave buying
everything that’s not nailed down.
Whether you are paying for it solo or getting help from the parentals,
everyone should be clear on what’s being contributed. This is not to say unforeseen overages may
occur (a subject for another post), but you do need to work out a reasonable
number (again, another post) and make it your best friend.
4. Decide on a style. A grand affair with a guest list 0f 300? An intimate soiree with close friends and
family? Something in-between? Only you two can answer that. More importantly, only you two should be
answering that (or, you two and your friendly neighborhood wedding designer, of
course). The style of your wedding
really shouldn’t be up for public debate.
Remember, the best weddings are not necessarily the big, flashy
ones. The best weddings let guests get a
peek into the awesome couple and their awesome lurve.
Above all, have fun!
Slow down, be gracious and enjoy the ride. Everything will fall into place. I promise.
Photo credit: smilingsilversmith.blogspot.com
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